To which I continue to reply that Paul was specific, God's choosing between Jacob and Esau was not about what they would or would not do.Being called and elected by God requires us to do one of two things: answer His call or neglect and despise it.
You may be at an impasse, but I am not.
God does not over rule or over run our free will of being, just because He "chooses".
He can only choose those who are willing to walk in Him and with Him.
Esau was unwilling, whereas Jacob was eagerly willing!
Romans 9:10-13 KJV
10) And not only this; but when Rebecca also had conceived by one, even by our father Isaac;
11) (For the children being not yet born, neither having done any good or evil, that the purpose of God according to election might stand, not of works, but of him that calleth)
12) It was said unto her, The elder shall serve the younger.
13) As it is written, Jacob have I loved, but Esau have I hated.
Much love!