1 Corinthians 7:3 - The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.
The loss of sexual intimacy in a marriage is a tell tale sign of imminent disaster. Just like a normal appetite, every man and woman has a sexual appetite that must be fed. If you are not feeding your spouse’s sexual appetite, don’t think they will just starve! Once your spouse stops seeing you in a sexual way and as a sexual partner, their desire will turn towards someone else. You will be nothing more than a roommate and/or the mother of their children.
Husbands should not be made to feel like they are sexual fiends. Sex is a natural and normal expectation in a Christian marriage. It is not to be used as a bargaining tool or reward for good behavior. A man will not put his sex life on hold either. If you are constantly putting sex on the bottom of your list of priorities, this will weaken him, causing him to be defenseless against temptation when another woman offers him what you are not.
The important thing to know is that every time a husband and wife deprive each other of sexual intimacy, they are opening the door to sin through temptation!
Do you make sure you’ve eaten, are dressed and ready to take on the day? Do you take time out in your busy schedule to get your nails and hair done? Do you make time to ‘go out with the girls’ or ‘grab a coffee with your bestie’? Clean the house? You make time for the things that are important to you. If you don’t find time for regular sex in your marriage, it’s time to make a change before it’s too late!
Order takeout, skip the dishes, send the kids to bed early, wake up earlier yourselves, cancel extra curricular activities for the family - do whatever it takes to make and maintain time for sex in your marriage. You can do without a lot of things in your life, but a sexless marriage is not one of them! Denying your spouse sexual intercourse (conjugal rights) is a sin against God’s word.
