I feel like i have no one.

[April_Rose]

Yeah I don't have an awful lot of real life friends either,.. but I have the Lord and without His consent, love, and support I wouldn't have anything,.. and He's the one who told me to go have fun and use my imagination and create my character of DJ based off of Him. He also gave His life for me. Now if that isn't a true friend, I don't know what is. :)

 

[Nancy]

I have online friends. But someone who i was able to open up to doesn't seem to want to talk. I was just telling new friends that someone who was a big support to me said that if she knew anything negative etc she would cut contact.

She ended up doing that.....
After all this time I'm being told it's an ultimatum and it was manipulative and she's not a real friend.
I feel hurt by this.
I just thought she needed boundaries.
I know my situation was hard for her for me to go back to.

I'm so sorry Lilygrace, nobody can hurt us like a brother or sister in Christ, I have found that out. And, @Pearl had another pearl of a post, pour your heart out to God and, careful what you say to whom. It is a sad situation as one feels as though they cannot express their thoughts and how they feel and who they once were in the BC days. My friends are pretty much on here other than a few IRL...have to hold some at arms length until we can trust them, and God WILL send you a good faithful friend, just keep asking and thanking Him for that and, watch Him work sister.
In Him,
nancy

 

[DuckieLady]

I know how this feels, Lilygrace. I had one sister that I interpreted dreams for a few times, and she was very prolific; most detailed recorder of dreams I've ever seen, and they were LONG, LoL. I had hopes for her, but we always sort of kept bouncing off of each other. We didn't trust each other very much, and she would also talk very negatively about others, especially men, who made mistakes and sinned against her; it was like she was so hurt from past things that she could not find any room for forgiveness.

I sensed my day might be coming as well, and sure enough it did. She wrote me off entirely after I spent the better part of several weeks trying to get closer to her and become true friends.

It does hurt. You invest in others, and you hope you are making a true friend, and more than that, someone you might be able to serve God with...

But you just have to pick yourself up and start again, trusting God that He will send someone else maybe, and that if not He will clothe you more in Himself.

Be encouraged. He will take care of you if you trust in Him.

This is a song I shared with another sister who has gone through hard times. Some think I'm being too "mushy," but deep down that's me, LoL. And maybe part of me is singing this to myself. We all need encouragement, and I don't see anything wrong with it that if no one is there we can be there for ourselves.

So I hope this ministers to you, because it does to me.

God bless,
Hidden

Dude I'm like right here

 

[lilygrace]

I would agree that it's uncool to talk about someone as if they can't read it when they actually can.... I kind of sensed that was going on....

 

[Hidden In Him]

Dude I'm like right here

I don't get it.

Are you thinking my post was about you? If so, sorry for the misunderstanding. I was talking about a sister at CF who I have known for several years. She goes by the tag name Job3315, and is a prolific dreamer.

I think she has a blog here as well, but I'm not sure. Let me check. I may be able to find it.

 

[lilygrace]

I'm so sorry Lilygrace, nobody can hurt us like a brother or sister in Christ, I have found that out. And, @Pearl had another pearl of a post, pour your heart out to God and, careful what you say to whom. It is a sad situation as one feels as though they cannot express their thoughts and how they feel and who they once were in the BC days. My friends are pretty much on here other than a few IRL...have to hold some at arms length until we can trust them, and God WILL send you a good faithful friend, just keep asking and thanking Him for that and, watch Him work sister.
In Him,
nancy

I understand this. But the thing is not talking to anyone new for three months. Then being triggered and crying ( i hid under my hoodie and she noticed anyway ) and then someone opening up their heart to me and filling in the blanks I couldn't say . I was triggered by someone sitting next to me all morning who was breathing heavily. And it reminded me of someone breathing into my ear. I didn't have to say more for her to guess i was molested by him for a long time.
I feel betrayed since this person drew it out of me as a spiritual leader. Etc. I feel i will always be heartbroken. She seemed infallible but i guess she's not or she wouldn't be so upset about my situation. and i don't think I'll ever believe anyone who is saying that she was a bad friend.
I am in tears as i write this.

 

[Hidden In Him]

I think she has a blog here as well, but I'm not sure. Let me check. I mean be able to find it.

@FluffyYellowDuck.

I can't find her here, but she is occasionally still at CF. This is her right here:
Question About Dreams and Visions

 

[Hidden In Him]

@FluffyYellowDuck.

I can't find her here, but she is occasionally still at CF. This is her right here:
Question About Dreams and Visions

Her dreams are like 500-1000 words long sometimes. Very prolific and very detailed.

 

[April_Rose]

I don't get it.

Are you thinking my post was about you? If so, sorry for the misunderstanding. I was talking about a sister at CF who I have known for several years. She goes by the tag name Job3315, and is a prolific dreamer.

I think she has a blog here as well, but I'm not sure. Let me check. I may be able to find it.

Yeah, I didn't think that you were talking about her until I saw that and then I just got confused. :

 

[Hidden In Him]

Yeah, I didn't think that you were talking about her until I saw that and then I just got confused. :

Confusion abounds these days. :) I've been guilty of it myself lately.

That's why I take no offense whatsoever. Part of that good ol' humility thing. :)

 

[Hidden In Him]

Dude I'm like right here

Fluffy, on a positive note, I just put my Blackberry in the ground, and I'm all about the analogy of growing together as brothers and sisters in Christ.

Please trust me, doing everything in my power to be a friend these days, at least hopefully anyway.
- H

 

[Amazed@grace]

(sending cyber-hugs your way)

You said they were in a leadership position. Maybe consider the kind of leadership skills they lacked when ghosting you as she forewarned would she learn anything negative about you.

Real friends don't do that. Her gift to you, after these 6 months of knowing her, is in my opinion teaching you this by her example.
That you may know through this experience the difference when you next happen on a true leader or potential new friend.

You deserve to be treated with respect. You deserve better than what she shows you is sorely lacking as her example of leadership.

You didn't lose a friend because she never truly was one.

Now, get up, dust yourself off, and do not let her abandoning you occupy one more second of your attention.
You have real cyber-friends here.:)

We love you warts and all.;) And most importantly so does God, your eternal best friend.

May the beauty of God's natural world make you smile.
beautiful picture at DuckDuckGo

 

[lilygrace]

She is my real friend. I'm in tbe wrong. She loves me

 

[lilygrace]

No one was.even there to tell me she wasn't a real friend.
I can't live without her. No one knew me as well.

 

[lilygrace]

I understand this. But the thing is not talking to anyone new for three months. Then being triggered and crying ( i hid under my hoodie and she noticed anyway ) and then someone opening up their heart to me and filling in the blanks I couldn't say . I was triggered by someone sitting next to me all morning who was breathing heavily. And it reminded me of someone breathing into my ear. I didn't have to say more for her to guess i was molested by him for a long time.
I feel betrayed since this person drew it out of me as a spiritual leader. Etc. I feel i will always be heartbroken. She seemed infallible but i guess she's not or she wouldn't be so upset about my situation. and i don't think I'll ever believe anyone who is saying that she was a bad friend.
I am in tears as i write this.

You can't call this fake when she reached out to me so much.

 

[lilygrace]

I am not trying to be mean but i just met some of you. How can you love me more than someone who understood me most when I needed it .... I couldn't be online to choose who i took to. I do like people here though.
A new friend called herself chopped liver but doesn't know much about me like a few other friends do. Maybe she does hate me and was just messing with me but its kind of hard to hear it when you weren't there.

 

[Hidden In Him]

No one was even there to tell me she wasn't a real friend.
I can't live without her. No one knew me as well.

Lilly grace, I think Amazed@grace's response to you was a good one. You don't want this type of mindset to dominate your thinking. Scripture says to think on that which is of good report (Philippians 4:8), and that means not focusing on such negative thoughts. Think of the people here who are trying to encourage you, and more importantly, think upon the Lord who created you and loves you. This is the lesson we all have to learn. We all let each other down at some point, no matter how much we don't want to. And the lesson in that is that you can't lean on other humans just like yourself because eventually every one of them will fail you, no matter how much they care. So give yourself to spending more time with the Lord, maybe in some simple Bible reading and prayer, pouring out your heart and your hurts to God.

He is the One who will never fail you, and when you have Him He will help you deal with times when others let you down, or when you let them down and they leave. He is the answer to every problem, and if you put Him first maybe your friend will be back some day, and better than ever.

Consider what I say,
Hidden In Him

 

[lilygrace]

God tricked me like i thought. It's all mind games. Things im led to believe. People always take everyone away from me.

 

[lilygrace]

Lilly grace, I think Amazed@grace's response to you was a good one. You don't want this type of mindset to dominate your thinking. Scripture says to think on that which is of good report (Philippians 4:8), and that means not focusing on such negative thoughts. Think of the people here who are trying to encourage you, and more importantly, think upon the Lord who created you and loves you. This is the lesson we all have to learn. We all let each other down at some point, no matter how much we don't want to. And the lesson in that is that you can't lean on other humans just like yourself because eventually every one of them will fail you, no matter how much they care. So give yourself to spending more time with the Lord, maybe in some simple Bible reading and prayer, pouring out your heart and your hurts to God.

He is the One who will never fail you, and when you have Him He will help you deal with times when others let you down, or when you let them down and they leave. He is the answer to every problem, and if you put Him first maybe your friend will be back some day, and better than ever.

Consider what I say,
Hidden In Him

I don't want to spend time anymore. It's been years the same prayer and someone giving suggestions that contradict one another. Im done.

 

[Mayflower]

I have online friends. But someone who i was able to open up to doesn't seem to want to talk. I was just telling new friends that someone who was a big support to me said that if she knew anything negative etc she would cut contact.

She ended up doing that.....
After all this time I'm being told it's an ultimatum and it was manipulative and she's not a real friend.
I feel hurt by this.
I just thought she needed boundaries.
I know my situation was hard for her for me to go back to.

Just to let you know, you are never alone Lily. God is with you, and He is a great and amazing God. Bless you sister. I pray God surrounds you with the right kind of friends to build up and encourage you both online and offline.