My husband has had multiple affairs with multiple married women. I left him and have an appointment with lawyer for divorce. He does not want a divorce and insists that I am going against God. He also denies the affairs. All of which I have proof of. It’s a case of serial lies, manipulation and adultery along with mental, emotional and spiritual abuse. He has claimed to be a righteous man of God since day one. He says I can not biblically justify the divorce. My question to anyone who can give me a biblically based answer based on the information I gave you is “Does God rather us remain married to a spouse that has had affairs and continues to have affairs with no confession, accountability and that continuously lies and manipulates using the word of God?
Im going to respond to you based on what you have told us, as it its the truth., And that you have been faithful to your husband.
Are you a born again Christian?
If you are not, then you are under ZERO obligation to listen to this "christian" guilt trip you.
If you are a born again believer, not just a church member, water baptized...but a REAL born again Christian, then your husband broke his vow, and your marriage, upon the date of his first fornication.
You now have the control. Its up to you, as you are not obligated to remain in this situation, as it is no longer a marriage.
Do you have kids?
Then if that is so, you have incentive to try to get marriage counseling to get this backslidden fool some help.
The issue with going to a church or pastor, is that you might end up with an idiot, who doesn't know anything about biblical marriage and remarriage, and is a typical legalistic pretender who will try to brow beat you into staying in this situation, exactly as your husband is trying to do it to you.
You'll find these same types on forums like this one, that would have you believe that no matter what, you have to stay in such a situation.
A.) you do not.
You are not obligated to stay married to a physical abuser or a serial fornicator.
He has broken the vow and the marriage, apparently many times.
This is not the same thing as a "one time mistake', that is forgiven and the man or the woman, will be faithful.
Once it hits #2, then that's the end, as you have a fornicating liar as a mate., and the marriage is broken
Its broken.
So. Do, you want to still try to make it work, and give him another try? Then that is up to you and thats fine.
But you are allowed out of what he has broken, and you may remarry, with one condition....
IF you are born again, a real christian, you may not marry an unbeliever.
NEVER.
I hope all works out for you., as you are in a tragic and hurtful situation.