This I think is more the reality.2) God's love for others in you by the Holy Spirit keeps you from wanting to harm them, and even help them instead.
We are remade to be like God is. God is love, so we love. Being people who love, that's how we live.
What @Behold teaches, and what I teach, is that this is an accomplished reality in those who are born again. But if this isn't how you think about yourself, and your life, that will be an impediment towards your living out this new reality.
When we realize the completeness and the permanance and the graciousness of our justification - the forgiveness of sins, and the separation from our flesh into a new life - when we realize these things, we walk accordingly, because it's who we are.
Much love!