This is what I've been studying and praying about too!
Just like you wrote!
I'm starting to form an idea of the fear of the Lord being something that we are 'inside of'.
Exodus 20
18 And all the people saw the thunderings, and the lightnings, and the noise of the trumpet, and the mountain smoking: and when the people saw it, they removed, and stood afar off.
19 And they said unto Moses, Speak thou with us, and we will hear: but let not God speak with us, lest we die.
20 And Moses said unto the people, Fear not: for God is come to prove you, and that his fear may be before your faces, that ye sin not.
Don't be afraid of God, that His fear may be before you.
So the fear of God isn't being afraid of Him.
Isaiah 29
22 Therefore thus saith the Lord, who redeemed Abraham, concerning the house of Jacob, Jacob shall not now be ashamed, neither shall his face now wax pale.
23 But when he seeth his children, the work of mine hands, in the midst of him, they shall sanctify my name, and sanctify the Holy One of Jacob, and shall fear the God of Israel.
24 They also that erred in spirit shall come to understanding, and they that murmured shall learn doctrine.
Rather than being ashamed, rather than growing pale, Jacob will see the children God gave to him, and will sanctify, and fear God. When he sees God keep His promises, he will sanctify and fear Him.
Jeremiah 33
6 Behold, I will bring it health and cure, and I will cure them, and will reveal unto them the abundance of peace and truth.
7 And I will cause the captivity of Judah and the captivity of Israel to return, and will build them, as at the first.
8 And I will cleanse them from all their iniquity, whereby they have sinned against me; and I will pardon all their iniquities, whereby they have sinned, and whereby they have transgressed against me.
9 And it shall be to me a name of joy, a praise and an honour before all the nations of the earth, which shall hear all the good that I do unto them: and they shall fear and tremble for all the goodness and for all the prosperity that I procure unto it.
Fear and tremble for the all the goodness and prosperity that God will bring to them.
There's something to think about!
Nothing can stop God from doing whatever it is He wants. Nothing!
I've been considering the thought that the fear of God is having a deeper appreciation of the fearsomeness of God. There seem to be several passages that link those who fear God as being those who are hoping for His mercy.
In that our two commandments are to trust Jesus and love others, the fear of God will promote both faith in Chrsit and love for others, a true faith, and a true love.
Much love!