We sample God's goodness at regeneration..we are forgiven, cleansed, and given a new motivation from within to fear the Lord and obey His commandments. What is left in us is a template of Christ into which we are to be conformed.
it's called discernment!
And knowledge and understanding.
You have to see the bigger picture.
Gentiles are like the wild branches that have been grafted into Christ...who are either to bear fruit or be cut off. God doesn't hate the Jews. And we are not more special than they were. So then to whom much is given MORE is required.
Rather than me being too intellectual, I think rather you are seeing things too much from an emotional subjectivity.
God is not a respecter of persons. It is no big deal for God to cause a spiritual birth into a spiritual race. Just like God can make a natural Jew and give him the law.
We will each be judged against the standard we have received...to understand that takes a prophetic understanding based on eternal wisdom. (Toushiyah) Do a study on toushiyah....double sided wisdom.
My studies are every bit guided by the Spirit. How else can one escape the religious options offered by men? But no one will understand that as long as they rely on human religious indoctrination...without going to the Hebrew and Greek and comparing scriptures with scriptures. Do you think the Bereans were wrong to seek out the truth of the scriptures for themselves? Or maybe more people should not just swallow whatever they have been taught?