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yesOk, but I'm looking for a girl with my same values, vision, goals, hopes, fears, priorities etc, otherwise we will have problems in the future. Is this what you mean?
I do agree sister. I knew God a little before I got married, but it was not until after we met and married that He really drew me to Him. Without her I probably would never have made it for I was just about dead in the water. Now my wife and I walk on the water!Proverbs 18:22
King James Version
22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.
My husband married me at 19. I don't think you're too young.
I posted the above verse because you will have to search to find a good wife. A virtuous woman is often hidden and she will only reveal herself if God puts you on her heart.
Have you prayed that God will lead you in your search?
Do you have Godly people you can let know that you're looking seriously for someone of good character to date?
Are you prepared mentally, financially, and emotionally for marriage?
At your age, this may simply look like being prepared to work hard to provide, being prepared to start out with a little and go from there, being prepared to meet her parents, asking her father's blessing if she is young enough, finding a place for you two to live, etc
People may discourage you from seeking a wife because they'll say you should be satisfied on your own.
I don't agree. Adam needed Eve and Eve's role was to help Adam. Men, especially young men, need help and having a wife can really help a man focus. I think your desire for a virtuous wife is from the Lord and He may be calling you to marry young in life. Nothing wrong with that.
Nothing wrong with knowing what you want and not desiring promiscuity or a string of unsuccessful relationships.
Nothing really fully prepares you to be married anyway.
You can use your time wisely in the meantime by getting your life in order as much as possible. I will pray that God leads you to a virtuous wife in His will.
The number of premarital sex partners is correlated with the likelihood of divorce. While a few may repent it with their heart and not do it again (extremely rare) the majority of those are "Christians" who say they repent it but will jump to their attentive friend's bed after a while & file a divorce the following morning after the long porn session with their twentieth-something partner. I'd rather find a virgin and wipe out this problem.
And no, not only I'm not looking for perfection, but I simply can't find it. Virgins are sinners too. It's really that demanding to insist on having a virgin wife? This has been done for thousands of years in thousands of societies. Even in tribal African cultures virginity is held as a virtue. So what's wrong with that after all? I'm a virgin as well so why can't I seek out a virgin?
And what's understanding the opposite sex?
Ok, but I'm looking for a girl with my same values, vision, goals, hopes, fears, priorities etc, otherwise we will have problems in the future. Is this what you mean?
I agree with your parents …
So obviously you don’t even have a job!!!
How on earth can you present yourself to a girl as a legitimate husband , protector , and provider if you don’t have a job and are secure?
What if babies came along ? 18 , with no money , no security , you have nothing to offer !!!
Good post! And thank you for your encouragements!@Chrétien
I do agree sister. I knew God a little before I got married, but it was not until after we met and married that He really drew me to Him. Without her I probably would never have made it for I was just about dead in the water. Now my wife and I walk on the water!
Different people have there own testimonies on what God has done in there lives, but it is really, I believe, a rare thing for a person to go forward toward God alone like Apostle Paul. I mention him as an exception. I am certainly not one of those exceptions. My wife is and has been my helpmeet these 49 years together and 45 of them on the Lord's side. God works like that in couples very often. Separate neither one may do much 'good', but together, Oh what a glorious wonderful God we are able to see and to lean upon...
Give God the glory!
@Chrétien You keep on seeking God and always also stay on the look out as He may have that girl, that woman of God, there for you and for her at any moment. Don't be discouraged because it seems like God is going to slow for you. Time is in His hands. Do not doubt Him!
I agree with your parents …
So obviously you don’t even have a job!!!
How on earth can you present yourself to a girl as a legitimate husband , protector , and provider if you don’t have a job and are secure?
What if babies came along ? 18 , with no money , no security , you have nothing to offer !!!
Completely false. Most divorces occur due to infantilism. People don't want problems these days, just fun fun fun xxxxxxxxx and at the first trace of trouble, I'm done with this and you are the worst creature in the Earth. This is especially true for most of the wives, who only want an eternal Prince Charming fulfilling all of their endless caprices and treating them like queens of the universe, and at the first half flaw they cheat on them to make them jealous & fill a divorce the next morning. And minutes after some insults and the separation they have a wild xxxx evening with their new Chad they met at Fakebook while their former husbands are left in the trash bin, or alone in bed t****ing themselves while looking their wives' xxxx at the laptop. 90% of divorces here occur for this reason. The result of decades of widespread indoctrination with feminism, secularism, cultural marxism, sexual liberalism, moral relativism, Disney, Hollywood, contraceptives, dirty music & finally internet.Well said................sad to say a lot of marriages end in divorce due to money issues.
Dropping the bar? Seriously???No one said you should not seek out a virgin wife, but when you find yourself still unmarried, many years from now, you might consider dropping the bar a bit. It was you after all who said you heard there were no virgins these days, and though there may be, they are far and few in beetween. You are also the one who said seeking a virgin has been done for thousands of years, but those days are long past when it comes to availability.
And that is not to say you shouldn't try, but the day may come when you will need to realize you will have to get real on this or remaim alone, but in the meantime, I truly wish you the best of luck.
In fact, those girls are worse than prostitutes because they are free, you don't need money to sleep with them. And who tells you that those girls will abandon their lifestyle and be faithful once they get married (if they ever do of course)?
Have you read my whole post? I addressed this exact point above.We are talking about women who may, in the past, have acted as such, but are now forgiven, and as prone to future mistakes as the rest of us.
It may be true that it is impossible you would make those or other mistakes, but God has forgiven them them, and given them a clean slate. Clearly you have no such forgiveness your heart, very possibly making you guilty of something far worse than they have done, as in putting yourself on a pedestal, implying you are much better than such people.
I'm afraid you may have missed the most important points of Christianity....sad
Have you read my whole post? I addressed this exact point above.
Virgin girls are often shy and reserved and thus tend not to have many contacts, so I will have little to no competition. The biggest challenge will be gaining the trust of her parents.I read it all.
Now that we know your fellings towards others, what do you have to offer this virgin if you find her? I mean why should she choose you over the competition. What kind of security do you have to offer?
Virgin girls are often shy and reserved and thus tend not to have many contacts, so I will have little to no competition. The biggest challenge will be gaining the trust of her parents.
That said, a girl with plenty of boys behind her will definitely not be a virgin.
A husband who is not perfect but will lead her closer to God and give her a beautiful Christian familyThen you have nothing to offer her? Whether or not she is, remains to be seen, but do you think she should be fine with someone who has no security to offer her?
A husband who is not perfect but will lead her closer to God and give her a beautiful Christian family