and ps, you have just denied Scripture again, when you say "Those of us who are in Christ will be judged over the good works that we did," in open, obvious defiance of what Scripture says, and that after you have erroneously declared It to be Word too, see?
Please inform me as to what scripture verse or passage it is that you think I have denied.
He who seeks to save his life will lose it
iow you do not even have a hope of salvation, see, there is no "probably" or "maybe" in there at all!
He who seeks to save his life will lose it
The life being spoken of here is your life, in the sense of your life in this world...if you try to keep your life in this world and will not give it up to Christ, then you will miss out on eternal life...but if you give up your life in this world and relinquish your right to yourself and what you want for your life, you will find that the desires of your heart are changed and that He will give you the desires of your heart (Psalms 37:4).
It is not, therefore, talking about eternal life, that if you actually take a step to receive Christ and thus His salvation that you would lose your life (i.e. be eternally condemned). The Bible teaches explicitly that if you seek salvation in Christ and enter in through the door, that you will have salvation and not condemnation.
and you must pick up your cross and follow for a good reason i guess.
To pick up your cross daily, denying yourself, simply means that self is not on the throne any longer...if you are going to live by the love of the Lord, understand that this means putting yourself last, others before yourself, and Jesus first...and that whatever your cross in life might be, you bear it willingly without complaining or arguing (see Philippians 2:14-15).
This is not a requirement for salvation as much as a telling to you what your life will have to be if you receive salvation and thus the love of God into your heart.
Salvation (and this love) is a free gift from the Lord...but what it means in your life is costly...to live by the love that He gives us so freely would not be an easy thing for someone to do who is not imbued supernaturally with that love...but for those who have received this gift, His yoke is easy and His burden is light.