Honestly I never googled what a fear based personality is until you asked. After googling it I still don’t know. It is just what the counselor said my personality is and I full heartedly accepted it immediately saying “wow. Yea! That is me!”
It makes me think of being an introvert. I’ve always considered myself an introvert. No doubt about it. I’ve been scolded that I’m so “introverted”. But after being in a sales position at Lowes for a year…I found out I’m really an extrovert loving contact and conversation with people. I say extrovert because I long that interaction. But I’ve convinced myself that I don’t, when the happiest I am is interacting and acceptance. Coming to this conclusion: I am an introvert with the heart of an extrovert.
So you cannot explain the concept in your head of what a fear based personality is? Even though you agree it is descriptive of you? I question that.
Introvert and extrovert is very misunderstood by most people. It doesn’t have to do with being shy or antisocial versus outgoing. It has solely to do with how a person recharges.
Extroverts, when they are worn down or tired, get renewed energy by being around others and doing something fun together.
Introverts, when they are worn down or tired, get renewed energy by solitude.
If an extrovert is forced to be in solitude, they become MORE tired and rundown.
If an introvert is forced to keep being around others (and especially in a crowd of others), they become MORE run down and tired, to the point of collapse and mental and emotional shutdown.
Its like…extroverts need other people to recharge their batteries and introverts need solitude from other people to recharge their batteries.
You could almost say…introverts are self charging beings.
The problems that introverts run into is not understanding themselves and their needs. An additional problem is extroverts making them feel guilty for wanting (actually, NEEDING) to be alone a lot of the time. It makes the introvert give in and not get what they need, which in turn makes them feel that people are vampires who drain them. And this can make an introvert shun people altogether, EVEN when they are recharged and would LIKE to do something with others, for fear that they will be sucked dry of any and all of their energy.
Again, it doesn’t have to do with personality. It has to do with the fact that introverts around others are in a state of burning gas and extroverts around others are in a state of filling their tank with gas. And conversely, introverts alone are in a state of filling their gas tank and extroverts alone are in a state of burning gas.
It’s the introverts who suffer and the reason is because they are the minority and they don’t understand how they recharge and deplete because it is completely unlike how the majority charge and deplete. So they go through life feeling something must be wrong with them.