Well, what you said before had to do with the words of Arminians being vain and having no truth. Maybe you did not intend this to be directed toward all Arminians, if not, you werent very clear in that regard. Anyway, there are two issues with your post. First, Arminians do not believe "God's will" to be a detailed and charted plan for every action of a person's life. Thus, finding "God's will" for one's life is not about surrendering to a preprogrammed course for your life. You are inserting a Calvinistic concept into an Arminian view which doesnt mesh. The will of the Spirit is sanctification, peace, gentleness, kindness, self-control, love and so forth. I dont think God's will includes making sure you buy the house that is "God's will" for you and surrendering to that will. So, a person can have "free-will" and live in accordance with God's will. God sets our feet in spacious places. I can follow the Spirit and still have freedom. God's will does not destroy human freedom or individuality. For example. I see a hungry and suffering person on the side of the road begging for help. I can stop and take the person to McDonalds and buy them a hotel room for the night at the local Holiday Inn. Or, maybe I invite them to my home and feed them and put them in a guest bedroom. Or, maybe I help the person to a nearby ministry where they can find the help they need. Or, maybe I give them a Bible, tell them about the love of God and give them some money to help them. All of these ways express the will of God, "to love your neighbor as yourself" and none extract my freedom. Now if I believed that God had a specific heavenly checklist of exact things I should do in that situation and my role is to discover that will and follow that checklist, then yes, this would perhaps mean that I am losing some sense of freedom (of course I still have freedom if I can refuse to do good at all (which is again impossible from the Calvinist position)). Yet my point is very simple. I can do the will of God in a host of different ways. Dying to the flesh means that I die to the sinful desires of the flesh, not that I abandon the way God created me and search for divine signs of what I am to do each and every moment as perscribed by God's master plan for my life.
Yes. But more than that, Wesley did not believe that prevenient grace was "saving grace." Calvinists would see any grace initiative of God toward a person as all encompassing. When God chooses you, you not only are infused with good will, but because that grace is irresistable you will embrace the gospel and persevere in it. Wesley believed that prevenient grace infused a person with God's goodness and ability to respond to the Gospel. However, this does not mean they will respond to the gospel. They have the capacity to, but they may reject it. Or, they may accept it and then later in life turn away from it. So, yes, a person can fall away, but they can also recieve prevenient grace and still not accept the gospel although they have the capacity to at that point in their life.