I know that this struggle is as old as the hills but I'd still like to get feedback from other believers. I've seen some prayers miraculously answered; I knew it was from God. Yet other answers - very deep and heartfelt longings and prayer for good things for family members and answers have not come to pass. I go before God many many many times throughout my day and pray for things that I believe are in keeping with His will, yet my prayers result in nothing.
I know that other believers have this happen and I wonder how you deal with it? I've had people say that there must be some sin in one's life, (Job's friends) or that God's timing is not ready yet, but the petitioning to God continues to bear nothing and yet I know God hears me.
When my mother was dying of cancer she prayed and no healing came. I remember her telling God: "I know you hear me." That's where I think we as believers have an even greater struggle than unbelievers: We know God hears us, yet withholds answers.
I spoke with a lawyer one time who handled a well-known case of priests molesting youth. I knew he was struggling when he said: "There is no God! That's why you're suffering!" I knew instinctively that the horrid things he heard had caused him to lose his faith. There have been many times when I felt like turning my back on God, and at times I have. But then I learn there is nowhere else to go. ("Whom have I in heaven but you?")
So how do you reconcile the suffering in this world - and your own - of good people and the seeming non-suffering of heathens? I've read Psalm 73 a number of times but it still doesn't cut it. I still petition God and ask Him to answer.
The trouble a lot of the time is that we want God to be our personal Santa Claus. If we are a good boy or a good girl he will reward us with presents.
I shocked the church one day when they had been asked to pray for a young man who was brain dead from a punch to the head and hitting it on the concrete path.
I was in the back row and I quickly grasped what was going to happen, so I got up and walked to the front and said for all to hear, "I don't pray" and paused for effect and to see the look on their faces (shock horror) and then continued, "until I know what God wants me to pray."
I said that God had shown me that we were to go to the hospital where he was being cared for, pray over a cloth and put it under his pillow."
The leader of the fellowship said he agreed with what I said and two others and myself went to the hospital and did just that. We told the staff what we were doing and not to remove the cloth.
The hospital had told the parents that he would never recover and he would be a vegetable for the rest of his life such was the brain damage.
A couple of weeks later he walked out of the hospital a normal person.
We all want people to benefit from the prayers we offer but the only thing that matters is what is God's will.
In another case, a lady's mother got cancer but she had this conviction that her mother should not die of it so she gave herself to prayer. She heard right and her mother was cured of the cancer. When her mother did die it was peacefully in her sleep.
The only answer to prayer that is worth having is the one that God wants.