Your "self-affirmation" argument can be a defense mechanism that does not allow you to be self-reflective, and or able to receive teaching (Unteachable spirit). I do not agree with everything
@Michiah-Imla says but he made a valid point in the post i quoted of his that some have a hard time receiving, because it requires us to have humility in the strength of our human understanding.
There are characteristics of true communication that will be woefully lacking in these such cases. Yes, both circumstances may be true, and perhaps I am given you valid wisdom which you are unwilling or unable to receive.
You see, we are truly limited by a typing only internet forum.
"You statements" will never be anything more than that, and will suffer the limitations of the venue. You are this, you are that, you you you, chasing after wind.
Instead of just declaring someone unteachable, show the teaching, make the presentation from the Bible. What's wrong with that?
For myself, I'm never unwilling to believe what the Bible teaches.
"Self-affirmations", I agree, are a defense mechanism, where a person chooses to shield themself instead of engaging in opportunities to grow, whether in understanding or in character. "Rather than risk coming to see I'm wrong, I'll just shut you down with, 'Oh, don't get all offended'", or whatever it is. Often written with many typos, as the emotional energy comes through.
but rather to trying to warn others from falling into the same pitfalls we ourselves are fell into
That can be a good thing, but assuming that someone else is in the same circumstance or development is often a case of projecting. This is particularly true when a person has very limited knowledge of the other.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 KJV
4) Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5) Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6) Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7) Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
Believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Thinks no evil.
This is some core level thinking we are to have, and the stream flows in an entirely different bed.
Much love!