Hey, bro!
First off, I like your avatar : ) Second, I know what it is like to not have a lot of pity for men. In my darker moments, I have a lot less than just a lack of pity. But that is where He takes us on our road to perfection in Him: From not just healing your own wounds but to the place where you actually pity everyone else, even those who seem to have the life you always wanted for yourself.
In the end, we are only as great or secure or happy as we are close to Him, so the key is not in pursuing or longing for what we thought might make us happy in life, but in giving ourselves increasingly to the Lord, for in Him there is not only healing, but the fulfillment of every promise and every dream He ever created us for, and intended for us to have.
God bless, and thought I'd share that with you.
- C