Going to be blunt here and very personal here:
I am victim of childhood sexual assault. The type that people write nightmare books about.
I have a MAJOR problem with the idea of a being (any being) forcing their will upon another. God did not create some people to force his will upon, and some to just throw in the fire. God does not just love a portion of mankind and die for just a portion of mankind. Rather, He dies for ALL mankind, and offers His gift to ALL mankind. And each person has their own choice whether to accept Him/His gift or to reject it. That is love: to offer a gift, not force.
I respect everyone has the right to believe how/what they do. I'm not attacking that at all, and please do not take my words as an attack here. Just sharing my beliefs.
Hi Jane, no, I most certainly don't see your words as an attack. I think Christians should be able to talk about things like this as brothers and sisters. Sure, we have differences of opinions, but ultimately, we are one in Christ.
To be openly honest back at you, I have not spoken to someone who has been through what you have before. So I am humbled by your willingness to share and feel the weight of what you have been through...and ask a measure of grace if I blunder and say something that perhaps I shouldn't.
I think there is a misconception when it comes to election and the idea that one is 'forced' into faith, that our free will is taken away in the face of an avalanche of God's will.
The bible tells us that mankind, as we are, rejects God and do not seek him. We are bound in sin and death and seem quite happy where we are (Rom 3:10-12). Election is the process in which God sends his Holy Spirit and awakens a deadened spirit to see and understand that new life is possible, freedom is possible, love and forgiveness is possible. The person then takes the leap into the arms of God with a full heart, no longer bound or enslaved and blinded by sin.
We know this to be true as we look at this "on the ground", so to speak. How many people have we tried to talk to about faith matters, and they just don't "get" it? Until the Spirit opens their eyes, they just can't. But for the elect, there was that very definite moment where we had the "ah ha!" and then made our own, conscious decision to move to Christ. In a very real way, the decision was a foregone conclusion, because how can anyone, knowing the sacrifice and love of Christ, want to reject him? But still, it was our choice; God didn't over-ride our brains for that moment in time!
As far as the idea of those bound for fire...yes. This is hard. And, like most people when talking about this doctrine, I could quote the scripture that talks about God's right as sovereign ruler to do whatever he pleases. And that is indeed true. But...I think we need to remember that this world and how it is, and how it will play out, has sin to thank. And that is on us. And that also gives credence to the fact that God does, indeed, let us have free will. Consider: God hates sin, but he allows sin to continue. He desires none to perish, but he allows mankind to continue in their rejection of him. The real miracle is that he woos some to him. I know the question then becomes, "why does he not woo everyone?" Well, I sort of went over my thoughts on the how's and why's in my post to Nancy in #130, so won't go over it again. Basically, God has this wonderful ability to be dualistic, but in a good way! Do I fully understand it? No! But do I want a God I fully understand? Not really, that would make him rather small.
I think when it comes to tough subjects like this, whether it's hard to understand, or hard to accept, we must just fall back on what we do know absolutely about God. He is all powerful, all loving and will uphold justice as he is holy. Put simply, I trust him. I trust him with the hard stuff, even if it makes me nervous or I can't understand in my flesh how it can be "good or fair". And I think, because of who he is, that if I'm wrong in my understanding of all this, he won't hold it against me. After all...most people are just doing their best to understand things that are...let's face it, hard to understand! And it's never as simple as an idea on page: black and white...there are always human issues that interact with how we try and understand these things. I think God understands that.