I have a dilemma with the situation with my dad. My dad was due to have another scan on Saturday, the hospital rang me on my mobile this morning to cancel ( they usually ring my dad ). Her words ‘ We do not need to do the scan because the CT scan has revealed all that the doctors needed to know ‘
I responded ‘ is that good or bad news ‘ ?
She responded ‘ Well it’s good news that you don’t have to do to the hospital on Saturday ! ‘
1. Why relay that message to me and not my dad unless they know it is really relaying a confirmation.
2. If they found nothing in the ct scan surely they would have done the second one to make sure
3. Should I tell my dad what I think the cancellation means or still leave it until we see the consultant next Friday ( at the moment he has not grasped that he could have cancer, so if I leave it I am giving him another week not to deal with this reality )
I hate this, I would rather the doctors just tell me and then in my own way I could relay it in his own home, rather than in a clinical room where we will then have to travel home.
It feels so deceitful knowing something and not relaying it……….
Don’t mean to derail the thread Cristo, but this is about withholding truth, for all the right reasons, but not knowing if it’s the right thing to do.
Part of me wants to protect my dad from hearing the words ‘ you have terminal cancer ‘ …….
Rita
I responded ‘ is that good or bad news ‘ ?
She responded ‘ Well it’s good news that you don’t have to do to the hospital on Saturday ! ‘
1. Why relay that message to me and not my dad unless they know it is really relaying a confirmation.
2. If they found nothing in the ct scan surely they would have done the second one to make sure
3. Should I tell my dad what I think the cancellation means or still leave it until we see the consultant next Friday ( at the moment he has not grasped that he could have cancer, so if I leave it I am giving him another week not to deal with this reality )
I hate this, I would rather the doctors just tell me and then in my own way I could relay it in his own home, rather than in a clinical room where we will then have to travel home.
It feels so deceitful knowing something and not relaying it……….
Don’t mean to derail the thread Cristo, but this is about withholding truth, for all the right reasons, but not knowing if it’s the right thing to do.
Part of me wants to protect my dad from hearing the words ‘ you have terminal cancer ‘ …….
Rita