I understand what you're saying, yet I feel there is so much more. God is transforming us to Christ, that is not an easy transformation. It is so much more than mental ascent, we must die to our flesh. Jesus was made perfect in what? Suffering. We are made perfect - how? In suffering, he is the First Fruit.
Have you never been disciplined by the Lord?
Hebrews 12:6 For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.
Training as one trains a child. The love of a Perfect Father!
We are born from God righteous and holy, but oh how the mind must be renewed! We are so used to thinking the old way, sometimes very dramatic means must be used.
There's a place in Daniel, something like, "when he shall have shattered the strength of the holy ones . . .", the next thought is, for when I am weak then I am strong in the strength of Christ.
When we are desparate for comfort, for care, we discover the love of our Father. Suffering peels away the corruptions of the flesh. Suffering shows us more clearly the flesh, and the world, and the Spirit, and our new spirit.
He who has suffered has ceased from sin. If we cannot learn in other ways we can learn by suffering. So effective is it, we can rejoice in our afflictions, because He disciplines us - for our good.
Suffering (2 Cor 4) allows Christ's life which is inside of us to be seen on the outside, through the transformation of our behavior, as we learn the control over the flesh which Jesus gives to us.
There are many obstacles, weights we carry, sins we tend to get tangled up in, suffering forces us to trust Him, and so we learn to trust Him. And in trusting Him more, we stand better in His grace. And so the flesh decreases, and He increases. And Christ is formed within us, as we are transformed by the renewing of our minds, according the the knowledge of our Faithful Creator.
Much love!