Sin that God cannot tolerate, I would think that means any sin, no? Isn't all sin condemned?
And don't we commit sins that seem to carry no negative consequence? No punishment or correction? Life goes on?
I suggest that the question of sin and punishment is over, and what we are dealing with is better described in the works of the flesh, contrasted to the fruit of the Spirit. Either we are walking in the Spirit, bearing the fruit grown in us by the Holy Spirit, or we allow the flesh to continue its works.
I suggest that God has a program for each one of us, of how He will renew us during the course of our lives, and by how much. He already knows how it's all going to work out.
I think God's disciplining of us (training to instill discipline) comes at all levels, from teaching us to not click on that porn, to valuing all people as our brothers and sisters, intent on protecting and sparing them from shame. Sometimes I think its about just editting that word out of our vocabulary, and sometimes it's about breaking that angry heart.
Jesus is unto us sanctification. I can trust Him for ALL the ups and downs in my life, to me it's all the same thing. I'm short on money, I trust Him for my sustinence. I'm short on strenth, I trust Him to be able to do what I need to do. I'm short on health, I trust Him for tomorrow.
Having enough money, I'll still need to trust Him, because it takes wings, and flies away. Having strength, having health, I still have to trust Him, these too can disappear in a moment.
I think that God is managing all of these things in His program to train me away from fleshy ways, to the spiritual way. So then God's intent to heal me isn't so much about whether I have the feeling of confidence, though it may be, but more to the point, whatever in God's wisdom is needed in my life, that's what He'll be doing.
Maybe I'll feel horrible over something I've done, and maybe some catastrophe happens, and maybe one has nothing to do with the other. Maybe God isn't doing anything about what I'm focused on, maybe He's working at a deeper level.
Much love!