Yes, I am aware of the different kinds of love in the bible. The last church I attended for 3 plus years was very cold, and not just to me, but ALL who did not subscribe to the T.U.L.I.P. doctrine were considered unsaved and, they will shun you until you leave.
And, the last 3 I visited either taught false doctrine or were way too big and the whole place emptied out so fast when services were over. I spent maybe a few months coming early for the first sermon to see if some would have time to fellowship in between sermons (one at 9, one at 11) I came early and left late and stayed for both services. So, no real fellowship. I also tried two of their small groups, which whittled down each week. The couple hosting the one tried to get those members who came for the first and second studies to return. It ended up being just myself and the couple! Covid hit, and nobody did them anymore. Besides, everything was mapped out by the church, they asked the questions, and they gave the answers, that is just indoctrination and does not help you to seek the answers on our own. I tried 2 others after that and they were SCREEMING liberals and, gay was ok...practicing couples as well were invited. I was shunned there and at their sister church (which I did not know) THAT pastor never returned any of my calls. I chalk that up to a married couple at the 1st church, I said hi and asked what they were doing at that church...they said their (uber liberal) church was their sister church. Then started talking about stuff, I brought up the gay thing and what does the husband say while giggling? "Well, we ALL have our pet sins" !!!!! I wanted to punch him...then repented right away, said have a great day and God bless.
BTW-I Agape EVERYONE!