I would agree with everything you said in your lengthy first paragraph.
I think the personal awareness that the candidate has of their life is very important.
He he feels he is living a sinless life, but can't figure out why he can't walk away from 6-8 hours a day on the Internet, I would be concerned (at best) about self-discipline, and (at worst) about addiction.
"I do not believe I have ever advocated for practicing homosexuals to be in church leadership. If I have, I misspoke." - Aspen
-- Nope, you haven't. At least not that I am aware of. I do not remember implying that was a belief of yours.
You have said more than once that you agree with the Bible when it calls homosexuality a sin.
I could not see how you could then advocate an active homosexual for the ministry, and you haven't.
"I believe I asked you why you are protecting the sin of arrogance/pride in the pulpit, but singling out homosexuality. That is a question not an accusation. I disagree that arrogance is completely subjective - if it was subjective, it could not be called a sin." - Aspen
-- That is just it. I have never 'singled out' homosexuality.
I have said more than once it is not better (worse) than any one of a number of other sins.
It doesn't make you MORE of a sinner than someone who commits adultery, theft, assault, etc. Even rumor mongoring and intentionally hurting through lies an deceit.
THOSE are the people I talk about needing to witness to.
And, as I said before, you never witness to a person just because of a specific sin in their life. You witness because they - like you and I were - are lost if they have not given their life to Jesus. You can never murder, steal, rob, rape, assault, sexually molest, sexually compromise, verbally undermine, etc. etc. etc.....but if you haven't given your life to Christ, you are lost. I am not sure why that point isn't coming across.
Anyway, the exact quote of mine that caused you to accuse me of that was, "Arrogance is often in the eye of the beholder. Murder, homosexuality, theft, adultery, sex outside of marraige is not."
There are people I have felt are absolutely arrogant that, when I got to know them, I found them humble and genuine. It was just how they came across.
There have also been people who I felt were genuinely caring and loving....until I saw them in difficult situations or in opportunities where selfishness and self-indulgence cam to light.
As I said a couple of posts ago, of course arrogance (pride) is a sin.
I would agree with almost every bit of the criteria you listed in identifying someone as arrogant.
If those are traits of someone applying for a pastoral position, they should indeed raise major flags because of the damage they could do to the church body.
It also indicates there are areas in their own life that need to be addressed before they are qualified to counsel and direct others on areas in their lives.
There is one "gray area" I would mention. There are indeed people out there that are arrogant and self-loving, and do not see it themselves.
I saw a poster with a picture of William Shatner as the early Capt. Kirk sitting in the captain's chair with a big smile on his face.
The caption underneath read, "I can't hear you over the sound of how awesome I am."
If someone is unaware, they can have it gently pointed out to them and given examples so they can realize for themselves.
If they accept it, begin working on it, and make genuine progress, awesome.
But if they, like some do, resent the implication and get angry, then by that very reaction alone they should realize there are issues to be addressed if you are going to be a pastor.
I still deal with sin in my life. Funny thing...when you ask God to point it out to you, you always expect a much shorter list than you actually get. ;)