Yes, Christ counts us as friends. However we are still servants of the King! God created the Universe, and by right of creation, ALL men, not just a specific race, owe Him obedience to His Law.
In John 13-16, Christ was speaking to the 12 (or 11). Could you show us scripture where it says that everything spoken to the 12 also applies to us Gentiles or even to other Israelites besides the 12? Also, you might note that Christ said in Mt 15:24, "But he answered and said,
I am not sent but unto the lost sheep of the house of Israel", and in Mt 10:5, He told the 12 NOT to go to any Gentile. That means that, if you've been taught to include yourself, as a Gentile, into everything Christ said, you are operating under very false, fake circumstances.
The only apostle that we Gentiles ever had is the apostle Paul. On any question we might have, about things that pertain directly to us, such as our hope or calling, Paul is the final word, period.
I'm not saying that Christ is not our friend. I am saying that, except for His death, what he gave to or said to the 12 or Israel cannot be assumed to apply directly to you, no matter what anybody told you. Paul is every Gentile's #1 main guy and until a person realizes that, they will never know hardly anything about the NT that resembles the truth.
Also, you might notice that, in the Bible record, the only Gentile Peter, or the other 11, ever ministered to was Cornelius in Acts 10. Peter had 3 visions before he was talked into doing it and, I'm sure he hated every minute of it. The ONLY reason he ministered to Cornelius was to pave the way for Paul's Gentile ministry.