I was hoping to read through this thread without weighing in, but here I am, needing to go to sleep and feeling the need to comment on what you said here.
First things first, years ago I attended a conservative PCA Presbyterian church and got a BIG dose of Calvinism there.
My understanding of Limited Atonement is that Christ died ONLY for the elect. IOW, He did not die for those who would never be saved. My pastor and I discussed this point of Calvinism many times and went round and round about it (while remaining friends). In light of John 3:16 and knowing the fairness and love of God, I never could accept this doctrine.
The sad part of this story is, some elders in the church who were diehard Calvinists thought that the pastor wasn't Calvinist enough and ran him off. Some of the most hateful, dogmatic Christians I've ever met or talked to have been diehard Calvinists. I'm not sure why this is the case, and I'm not implying that I think you're hateful.
I guess I would just say, why identify with a fallible man (Calvin) and not with Jesus Christ alone? We are all Christians, those of us who are truly saved. Why use labels that divide us? Our understanding of the scriptures will never match up 100 percent (at least not during this earth life), but the body of Christ is one body.
WE ARE HIS BODY!