You left out..."if the brother has not sinned a sin that is unto death".
And as i told you before, You should keep your mouth shut about your past sins...., as when you "guilt trip" to another person, or God forbid, in front of a Church.....then you have given the Devil ammunition, to destroy your ministry.
He will take your "confession", into the ears of people who are gossip laden carnal people, and that is a BIG MISTAKE you can't undo.
You are not really in the ministry, as if you were you'd know a few things about how "the sheep behave".
So, if by happenstance, you find yourself as an officer of the church, never ever talk to "other believers" about your most private sins and faults.
TALK to God and Christ as you can trust them.......
These people, these "sheep".... some will harm you later, if you CONFESS., and so will your wife, unless she has a true spirit of meekness and is the type of RARE person who holds secrets for life.
This is a very rare human being.
Also, and finally for today... Paul told you to be a "follower of Me"......"as I follow Christ".
So, there is your Apostle to follow. Its the one that Jesus chose from Heaven, as a "chosen vessel".
Paul is your "apostle to the gentiles" who wrote all the Church Doctrine, and most of the Epistles.
Jesus is your Lord and Savior, but PAUL is your teacher, along with the Spirit of Christ.
When you find someone like me, the rare Minister who shows YOU THAT, then you need to listen to me, as im the one who can help you grow.
But that's on you to discover and you have your opinions.