It is not a sect belief, a doctrine, or philosophy, nor a mere belief of mine, but the truth from God.
No, we are not "making" life decisions as it were, for time is a mere illusion. The easiest way to understand it is as it is written: that all this world and the would-be chronology occurred before the world was, making this all just the revealing of it, like the reading of news. The "here" of this "Earthly world" is not so much a place, but rather an aside within the mind of God.
What is real is what is of God, and therefore this experience we have in this would be image created by God for revealing what "is" in baby steps, is indeed real. But it is real like a picture ("image") in and of itself is real, but also not real as it may be perceived to be, as it is a mere image of what is actually real.
As for "leaning", or things before or after...those are all time in nature and therefore not the case. Which is not wrong for you to speak of in those terms--even I am doing so, as has God also. That is the method and language of revelation. But I am now explaining it and must call it wrong according to actual reality which is timeless. So, to answer your question...the things of this world and what seemingly exists on a timeline when it actually does not--they are actually happening in real time in our way of thinking, but actually without time. A good way to understand it is to consider Light cast through a prism. The light was not off and now on, but was and is Light (if you have read the scriptures this Light has a name). But back to the prism: there is no chronology to the separations of the light, but you would think there was if you were to walk through them over a would-be lifetime. That is what God has done. That is what this is: Timeless revelation over would-be time.
So, no, it is not exactly as you said; but yes, this is us dead in stasis--which makes our would-be (appearing) second chance, our only chance.
Your logic is not wrong, but your assumption and conclusion is.
Yes, the fallen nature of mankind was indeed "purposefully made." Imagine therefore that all things had no definition, no contrast, no means of interaction, nor even a way of determining any difference between good and evil. Imagine sitting alone and blind and deaf, without touch, smell or taste...just a mind to think. Within a being of One--boring, yes, but no problem. But with more than one you would need or perhaps want all of those. Hence, all that is good and light, but also all that is bad and dark or evil.
Not that you should or could be expected to also imagine a solution to such a cosmic problem...but if you can imagine the benefits and the problems that might ensue, you might also imagine the purpose for what we are now in the midst of--which is, God eliminating darkness and evil in the best, most lovable way possible--that is: by choice.
Thus, if one prefers darkness and evil, or all that is good--that is what they are going to get...for eternity. God can do that, and He is, and it is good, very good.