Love your daughter. Don't judge her. Pray for her. The rest is up to God.
This is good, and yet I would add that we are instructed scripturally to train up a child in the way he should go. A child at age 13 is still under our teaching and training.
@Logo
Pray for wisdom from Holy Spirit for the words to speak, and how to walk in love toward her. This is confusion and confusion came in somehow. Maybe she can identify when this began. And honestly, I'd be proactive even if it meant moving, changing jobs so that more time could be spent with her. That sounds drastic, I know. But nothing is more important than our children. As a mother, I moved 4 times for the sake of my children's safety. Your daughter's circle of friends may be toxic. Her school may be teaching confusion as many public schools do. The school library quite possibly has books teaching about homosexual sex. (I've seen testimony of children who brought this to the attention of their parents.)
Do the legwork and get to the root. Has she felt neglected, needed time with her parents to talk, or has she experienced some sort of sexual abuse? Confusion came in somehow.
I hope this doesn't anger anyone, but I had to choose truth as a 14 year old when satan tried to convince me I was a lesbian. I had come to Christ at age 13. I came from a home of severe abuse and trauma where I was sexually used by both men and women. When a woman in the church came toward me to hug me and my body interpreted it in a sexual way (because I had let my guard/walls down), it scared me and satan went to work on my mind. But my body was doing what it was trained to do since infancy.... not because that's who I was, but because people had manipulated my body in ways that were unholy. As a 14 year old, I didn't understand all the "whys" around how my body reacted, but I chose truth. And God brought me more understanding as I got older and He began to heal me of all that wounding.
Add: I was afraid of men, and avoided physical closeness. So naturally, when I came to Christ, I let my walls down first around the women in the church.
I'm not saying your daughter's experience is the same as mine... not at all. But there will be an open door somewhere. And since she is a believer, she needs to choose truth.
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