I have a gay brother. He married a sweet woman. They had 2 boys...his wife found pictures of the gay variety and put 2 and 2 together. He fessed, they divorced. He and her are still friendly to one another. One of his sons is also gay...he's 25 and just came "out" to his dad. The other one is straight and is about to get married!! Much heartache came out of my brother keeping his true sexual orientation pushed down for so very long. I love my brother so very much and, I know it bothers him still, what the Word has to say about it. Yet, he has given up and is now married to a man. They have been together for about 20 years now. They live in another state and, I pray for him all the time to realize what the grace of God can do for him. And, my nephew, his youngest, has only told his dad about his being gay. Lot's, and lot's of constant stress involved in all of it...
I say love requires us to minimize the harm done to others and maximize the good we can do according to our abilities and circumstances. Gay marriage might not be ideal, but what is? Donald Trump and his three marriages along with all the affairs?
I think when Paul talks about homosexuality, he condemns the lust involved. No doubt about it, lots of gay sex involves lust and not love. That's certainly not good. Once he talks about effeminacy -- and that's pretty bad too in my book for a man to try to attract another man by acting like a woman. Then there are insecure men who want to dominate other men -- they feel more like men if they can dominate another man since they see that as harder than dominating a woman. I think I've seen it all.
Remember too that most men were married then, so if they were having gay sex, they would have been cheating on their wives. Your brother sounds better off to me in a gay marriage; and I'm glad his ex-wife wasn't seriously damaged because that can happen. I wish her the best.
It's not loving for a gay man to marry a woman unless she knows beforehand, it's just not; and love is how I measure things and interpret things. How loving was it when AIDS was fairly widespread for men to go have gay sex and later give it to their wives when they had sex with her? Why put women, innocent women, at such risk?
What's with the Catholic Church making gays feel so guilty. Young gays probably think they don't want to marry women, so why not become priests? Later they find out they can't resist temptation. That whole setup reeks to me since they forbid marriage. It's as if there is a "Gay Mafia" running things and they want as many gay priests as they can get -- so the straight guys should stay out. Oh yes, that's a good plan to put a bunch of gay guys together in seminary and tell them to be chaste. It's crazy if you ask me.
People say Jesus never talked about it; but there are two passages where he could have been. "Raca" means "worthless." A gay man could be called that since he's "worthless" at making babies. Theologians debate that. Then there is the story about the Roman soldier who brings his young male servant to be healed. That is a little unusual; and it's true that men back then sometimes got young boys as servants and lovers. I don't know what to think about it.