On the contrary - my advice to Grams was out of pure charity.
Blaming others for HER failures and shortcomings is what is "cruel" - and sinful . . .
I believe there is a wonderful parable here that speaks to the situation...one about a speak and a plank...You speak of a sister's "short-comings" for sharing her testimony...her life story.
Why should anyone, of any denomination, speak negatively over a sister who found joy in Christ? The Catholic Church is Christian, correct? Protestants are Christian, correct? And while there are certainly differences that see us choosing one above another in how we understand scripture, our faith and doctrines, we believe in one God and worship one Christ.
I think it is distressing that such vitriol should be displayed against each other, simply because of denomination. Where is the edification of the Church in this? Where is the building up of the family of faith? Jesus cannot be happy with the things that are being said on this thread...from either side...
It matters not how much biblical truth we think stands behind us...if we're being jerks, that's all anyone will see, and that's what we portray for Christ.
So...charity? In your own mind, perhaps. But I doubt anyone saw or heard it that way.
You might want to work on that. Also; your compulsive highlighting, I think your trying to get emphasis into your message, but to be honest, it looks like type tourettes. It's very hard to follow.