A related thread has identified how we cannot in any manner bear the Cross of Jesus, and are to daily bear our own cross.
Lots of informative chit chat has taken place within the Venues and Publications of Modern Christendom, yet no person can give specific examples of having done so. If you think we are to daily bear our own cross in obedience to Christ, and If you bear your own, then tell us how you do it. Give stories. Just like the Action Figures in Scripture unabashedly gave their stories, without worrying about lacking humility.
Let's hear it.
Jesus said it best: "deny yourself", and Paul adds, "to live is Christ."
When Christ comes to us, it is no longer we who live, but Christ who lives in us. So, then, if we do not give Christ first position in our life in all things, we are not bearing our cross, but denying Christ in our life, and life then is a series of dead works, because we live for that which was dead. This is what is referred to as "grieving the Holy Spirit", because having been presented with life, we choose death instead.
Bearing our cross daily, means denying self, that Christ may live.